Beyond Career Hacks: Coaching That Transforms Identity, Not Just Your Schedule

Sep 16

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When most people think about coaching, they picture career advice: productivity hacks, leadership tricks, or the kind of generic tips that tell you to “wake up at 4 am” or “plan better.”

But hacks don’t change your life. They rarely touch the deeper reasons why high-achieving women feel successful on paper yet stretched thin, disconnected, or misaligned inside.

The kind of coaching I do is different. It doesn’t ignore the reality that you’re not just a professional — you’re also a mother, a partner, a whole human being. Because when coaching focuses only on work and sidelines the rest of your life, it can lead you further away from yourself, not closer.

What my clients often say, by the end of our work together, is this:
“This was so much more than I expected.”

Because coaching, when done well, isn’t about more efficiency.

It’s about alignment.
It’s about identity growth.
It’s about making your life and leadership feel more like you.

Why High-Achievers Still Feel Disconnected

As a clinical psychologist and executive coach, I work with smart, capable professionals — especially women — who have checked the boxes, earned the degrees, landed the jobs… and still feel a sense of disconnection.

They’re doing all the things.
But something’s missing.

What they want is to stop running on autopilot and start living more intentionally.

Rediscovering Who You Are

Many of my clients arrive in the midst of transition:

Returning from parental leave
Stepping into leadership
Facing burnout
Or realizing that what used to work… no longer does

They tell me:

“I’m successful on paper, but I don’t feel successful.”
“I’ve lost track of what I actually want.”
“I’m exhausted from trying to be everything to everyone.”

Coaching gives them space to pause. To ask:

Who am I underneath the roles I play?
What do I truly value?
Are the patterns driving me still serving me?

Making Room for Choice

High performers often operate from default settings: perfectionism, people-pleasing, or a relentless drive to prove themselves.

These patterns can be useful — until they start costing you your time, energy, health, or joy.

Through coaching, you learn to:

Spot the patterns that keep you stuck
Respond with intention instead of reacting from habit
Expand your tools for handling challenges
Access more agency and choice

You shift from surviving your life to designing your life.

And the research supports this shift. Studies in psychology show that when success is defined only by external markers like titles, promotions, and income, it often predicts higher stress and lower well-being (Deci & Ryan, 2009). By contrast, aligning your choices with your core values and authentic identity leads to greater motivation, resilience, and lasting satisfaction (Ryan & Deci, 2017).

This is why meaningful coaching has to go deeper than quick fixes or productivity hacks. It’s not about doing more. It’s about creating a life and leadership that actually fit who you are.

The Ripple Effect of Redefining Success

The changes my clients experience are both subtle and profound:

They speak up more clearly in meetings
They say no without guilt
They spend time with their kids and actually enjoy it
They stop chasing goals that aren’t theirs
They sleep better and feel more present

Success stops being about exhausting external validation and becomes something meaningful and sustainable.

And that transformation doesn’t just benefit them — it ripples out to their teams, their families, and the systems they lead in.

Because when women lead from a place of grounded authenticity, everyone around them feels it.

Ready for More?

If you’re craving clarity, direction, and a deeper sense of alignment between who you are and how you work, this might be your time.

Coaching with me isn’t a quick fix.

It’s a six-month, high-touch experience of reflection, tools, and real transformation.

You’ll walk away with:

More confidence
More self-awareness
More capacity to create the life and leadership you actually want

Let’s begin.

Sources:

Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2009). The “What” and “Why” of goal pursuits: Human needs and the self-determination of behavior. Psychological Inquiry, 11(4), 227–268.

DOI link: https://doi.org/10.1207/S15327965PLI1104_01

Ryan, R. M., & Deci, E. L. (2017). Self-determination theory: Basic psychological needs in motivation, development, and wellness. New York: Guilford Press.

Link: https://www.guilford.com/books/Self-Determination-Theory/Richard-M-Ryan/9781462528769